Starting this day off right
I was speaking to a friend last night who broke up with her recent beau – she says she has a thing for unavailable men and that she is working on it. She’s doing a lot of soul searching and a lot of reading about finding truth in the moment. But she said, “I just wish I had a big red flag that would go off when I’m about to do what I’m about to do.”
Her therapist said for her to avoid for a temporary period going after people she feels sexual chemistry with because in the end she needs to proceed with her head not her loins and that will lead to her heart. But of course the guy who has asked her out recently is someone she has no chemistry with and she says she’s missing the wow.
I told her I was talking to one of my long-time friends the other day and both of us agreed that we would have been better off having half the libido we did when we were younger. It’s easy to be a better judge when you can think clearly and you find that you are attracted to fewer and fewer people because your head is talking not your loins.
She said she is also trying not to spaz out about money and security and the future as well. Sort of all part and parcel of the same fears – if this person commits to me then they are a loser, I’m never going to have financial security because I’m a loser, etc.
Today is the day to stand up and be counted among the winners!
And today I’m approaching the nagging voice in my head and telling it to back off, stand down, find some other mind to haunt. The voice I hear instead says it’s a beautiful day, you have a wonderful life, now go enjoy it.