Filling your life to the brink of chaos
In yoga today we talked about how there is a time for saying yes and a time for saying no. And discernment is the key to balancing the two. I remember when we were first starting down the path of adoption, we had at one point an opportunity to adopt simultaneously twins and one other baby and that would have meant that we would have entered chaos and never ever had a chance to reflect on it. As it is, one baby is enough to make two mommies go to bed early and try to keep up.
When I went to Whole Foods tonight to get stuff for Tin’s birthday tomorrow, I ran into a few mommies that had multiple children, and the conversations were amazingly interesting as they were monosyllabic soundbytes between the three or more entities. I felt a sense of steadiness that I was going home to one dog, one cat, one son, one partner. Good grief.
There is also a warning sign that goes off in my head when I feel that I am saying yes too much, when I’m letting outside interest in and having other people’s opinions rattling my brain. There is also a time when I feel like I’ve said no too much, no to seeing my friends, no to going out, no to my vices. Discernment is the key. Know what to leave in, and what to leave out. But timing is also essential in fine tuning discernment. Knowing when to and when not to.