Who to leave in and who to leave out
Today seemed like every conversation veered back to my mother and each time I tried to have that conversation about her from banal to not, I was fighting back the tears. We had a friend over this evening and were discussing the latest rants and musings and our friend said that in life when people, family, behave like a unit it is out of a need to clearly define who is core and who is peripheral and therefore who could be cut out to keep the unit humming.
We talked about friends and about how we abide by our difficult ones because in the end we have meaningful relationships and we talked about how family and friend relationships can be so fragile – so fragile that some snap at the least provocation.
And as I came upstairs to turn off my computer after our friend had left, and to get my list for Tin’s birthday on Friday of things I need to pick up at the store, I read a chilling entry from a cyber friend that her biopsy came back with a not good diagnosis. It has given me pause. My friend who left here just minutes ago had her mother in from out of the country, three weeks after the cancer she was diagnosed with, which looked to be very negative, was removed completely – she was one in 3% of the people who have been able to overcome the diagnosis of this particular kind.
I’m going to sleep tonight to hope for a miracle and good things for my cyber friend. We need more miracles in our lives.