Life is for the living
I spoke with my brother earlier today and told him mom sent us a blessing, he said, “A blessing, a white same sex couple bringing up a black boy, sounds like a challenge.”
I told him, “You’re jealous because we lead a more interesting life than you.”
Today when we were walking around the mall, everyone wanted to get a look at Tin – he’s gorgeous, not just because he’s cute but because he has personality galore.
My other brother wrote how did you come up with the name Tin (this was after he was harping that I had to get him re-circumcised by a mohel) – I said it is short for Constantin and that circumcision is genital mutilation – he cringed in his next response and begged me to see the light, for god’s sakes.
My other brother sent me an email and said, “Do I have to be in prison to find out you have a son?” He’s the funny one.
My emails are not sending from the Indiana outpost – I sent to my family and my very close friends an email before I posted to my blog the adventures of Tin, but no one got the email and one friend said she had to read it on my blog, and my family remained clueless until one of them I happen to get through to knew and lorded it over the other ones, one by one.
December 15th, 2009 at 12:51 am
Rachel,
It appears as though you have had a rather rough time of it from some family members. I am truly sorry to find out about that. You are to remain strong and with Tatjana, as your life-partner, and your fabulous, delightful, precious son, Tin, you can tame and win over any situation the world throws your way. You know you could do it on you own, as well, but it’s always so much better with loved ones around. There are many, many people caring about you and wishing you all the love, happiness, and peace possible.
I hope I don’t seem too pushy or forward in thinking I am allowed to write these short messages to you. I have had the chance to meet you, after all these years, and I feel such a strong kinship. It’s hard to describe, but it is there and I treasure it.
Best to the three of you and safe return home…
December 15th, 2009 at 8:27 am
Thanks M – I am happy your in my life. My motto in life is to proceed with love and to enjoy the hell out of this ride because it is a one time occasion. As for people who don’t support me or offer me love and understanding, I don’t waste too much time on them – I’m very pragmatic when it comes to relationships. It’s not a take me or leave me attitude so much as in the words of Rodney King – can’t we all just get along?