Lower your expectations and things get easier
Mom was breathing on her own today and they said they were going to pull the tube out and they did around early afternoon, only she had a lot of trouble and so by this evening she was back on the ventilator. I had set up in my mind that she had to get off this ventilator because only then would she be making progress to get better, but I had to back off of those expectations and accept the fact that she is doing pretty good but she needs the ventilator right now.