Proposition 8 and a new proposition on life
Been thinking about the rules – you know the relationship ones – and I’m somewhat confused by the rules I knew and the ones that exist in a gay relationship. Actually, I’m pretty sure none exist in a gay relationship because they are living outside of convention, so most cherry pick the rules. In your straight people, you’ll find the typecasts of faithful, philanderer, noncommital, jealous, giver, and taker and you find these all in gay relationships too. But there is something unwritten in the gay code, which is the most enlightened part of the lifestyle and that is “we don’t have to do it like they do.”
Which is curious that gays want to marry – DON’T GET ME WRONG THEY SHOULD BE ABLE TO – but that they would want to? Ack – seems to me it would be better to change the law structure that favors marriage and rewrite it so that it makes sense in legal partnerships that there be transfer of assets, community law, and parental obligations rather than a $10,000+ wedding and rings. Sort of like a checklist legal document that asks you how much you want to be legally binded and the ability to leave unchecked the boxes where you don’t.
Think outside the box is what some will tell you – my gf said it to me one time when I was questioning something I didn’t like – the problem is that the greatest relationships are conceived within a framework – I have found few couples who work without a construct, and I have known a rare few who have successfully designed their own. It’s really the lemmings who adapt to the societal structure and either adhere blindly to the status quo or fail miserably because it’s too rigid.
I refer for the umpteenth time to the sculptor, Louise Nevelson, who said she made her world when the one she was living in didn’t serve her.
And I quote once again the hands-down best fortune to come out of a fortune cookie – the one I got when I arrived in San Francisco in 1990, which said, “A woman who tries to equal man, lacks ambition.”
A couple who won’t create their own charter because they fear the consequences, lacks imagination.