Lean on me, not
Sheryl Crow said Lance and she had irreconciliable differences but they still love each other. When she was diagnosed with breast cancer, Lance wanted to come be by her side, she wouldn’t allow it because she didn’t want to have to go through the inevitable break up all over again.
Among the Multitude
Walt Whitman
Among the men and women the multitude,
I perceive one picking me out by secret and divine signs,
Acknowledging none else, not parent, wife, husband,
brother, child, any nearer than I am,
Some are baffled, but that one is not — that one knows me.
Ah lover and perfect equal,
I meant that you should discover me so by faint indirections,
And I when I meet you mean to discover you by the like in you.
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Work is good but it requires “continuous partial attention” (a term coined by Microsoft exec Linda Stone) – it colors relationships outside of work who are not used to constant interruption – you try to explain but you can’t – you don’t want to but you have to – it’s like saying I am not going to learn how to use a computer, I will not go on the internet, I will not have a cell phone – modern workers don’t have the luxury of being apart.