Going bravely into the new you
It’s not too far fetched that a dynamic woman such as myself – assertive in all things – would not state her needs in her love relations. I’m the daughter of an alcoholic and a rage-o-holic – what I learned best was to not need anything. And I learned how to cook, clean, not take up a lot of negative space in a room, and all those great things that kids learn in these kinds of environments.
And when I finally did learn how to say I need – I said it to my husband of 11 years and so began our 4-year denouement. Then I stated my exact needs to my lover and so began our denouement. Hmm, so far, makes a girl go what? Stating your needs drives your lover away, right?
Wrong – took a long time to develop that part of me, but I put my right foot in with Steve and then my left foot in with N and you know what, I moved two steps forward. Indeed.
That is why I am determined to move into the next phase of my life fully aware of my needs and unafraid to articulate them to the man (men) in my life. Because the next time, I am going to state my needs and it will be “she shoots, she scores” – if not the man – then at least another step forward for the new me.