How to be a couple?
After more than a decade I began to feel like my marriage was more like a gay relationship than not. Our life had become and appeared to be decidely predictable and childless and how should I say – lacked unpredictability that made me feel ilke someone was throwing the dirt on my grave way before my time.
I think women bring to the relationship the unknown. A woman I was speaking with last week said that her boyfriend was leaving her because she was too unpredictable. Even S used to say that he would have never gone out with me five years before he met me because I am “irrational” – read: unpredictable.
I go back to my role model of choice – who would I be in another life? – Cleopatra, no less. Capricious, sensuous, powerful Cleopatra – her love with Antony ended in mutual suicide because it burned too hot – but she was criticized endlessly then and now for her unpredictabiility. Who would criticize Egypt as Antony referred to Cleopatra – only men would see this mystery as a flaw.
I had lunch today with friends and asked the gay man at the table if I am right – what about this unpredictability and he agreed, male couples (not necessarily those in their twenties) tend to know what they want and then go about leading their lives according to those desires (if all goes right – we are talking generalities here).