Branching out or just simply proceeding with eyes open
A friend called me and said he can’t believe how hard it is to date – is it just me?, he asked. I told him I don’t have much to offer on this subject. I never dated in my life. I married. And now single, I’m not quite sure what protocol is exactly. I know people who date but I would not say they are “successful” in love, whereas I do know that I have had success in my relationships. So maybe dating is overrated.
He thinks we should head uptown and scout out new territory, new faces – a different tribe. I subscribe to the belief that if you do what you love every day, then someone will come into your world who loves the same things.
Again, I’m no expert. But I’m happy trying to figure it out. I don’t know if we need to leave the hood to meet people, but I think you do need to proceed with eyes open. I also romantically subscribe to the belief that you might have already met who you love, but timing is in the way or geographical relocations haven’t happened, or the one who you might love is just about to turn the corner and say good morning with a sweet smile that pulls you all the way in. I’m an optimist.
But for now – have fun – proceed with eyes open – have a fearless heart – and subscribe to romance. Everything else – like applying arcane rules for dating, trolling in distant waters, and waiting for someone to complete you – seem tedious and boring.
I’m having such a blast right now in my life there would have to be a damn good reason to let someone share all the fun with me.