From El Lay with love
I’ve been Skyping with Tin every day while I’m in Los Angeles working and when I look at him on this computer screen he just radiates love. How can so much love be wrapped up in that little 22 pounds? It’s nutty!
One thing my friend finally made clear to me the other day is the need to get off the bottle. I find that most of the transitions that Tin has to make – whether it be eye surgery or learning a new anything – are harder on me than on him. I polled a bunch of breast feeding mothers and the consensus there was to breast feed till 18 months or two years. The books say twelve months transition off the bottle. The doctor said now. I asked other parents who had adopted infants who were not newborn (internationally mainly) and some have continued night time bottles even at 3 years old – for the bonding, the comforting.
Who is being comforted? When my friend explained how sucking on a bottle keeps formula around the teeth and thereby causes tooth decay – I finally understand why Tin has to get off the bottle and why I have been reluctant to give it up – I am comforted by having him in my lap, still, sucking his bottle. He will be just fine without it.
It’s amazing to me how sometimes my trips away from home, routine, and setting always seem to shine light on grey areas.
June 18th, 2010 at 2:33 pm
ay, porqué no dejarle la botella hasta que el chico prefiera el vaso? porqué se han inventado tantas cosas para alejarnos de la intimidad, del bonding? yo voto porque le dejen a Tin la botella por un ratito más. está todavía muy chico, apenas acaba de empezar a caminar. dale la botella, mami. un beso
June 19th, 2010 at 7:00 pm
Yeah, you think he doesn’t have enough spoiling hey?