If you wish upon a star
I’m one of the luckiest women in the world. I truly believe that and I’m grateful for all the joy I have in my life and the countless blessings that come my way. I was speaking to a friend who works with disabled kids who have anything from autism to blindness and so on. She said when Santa came around this past holiday season and was making a list of what the kids want for Christmas, the blind boy asked for “eyes.”
When we are filling out these ridiculous adoption applications they give you a list of what you will accept as a defect in a child. I feel like a complete asshole because I had said no to blind. What’s wrong with me? Missing digits okay, blind not okay.
Sometimes I make myself sick in what I don’t know or understand.
March 24th, 2009 at 11:08 am
Adoption is hard. International adoption of a child who is not a newborn is more difficult. Most children adopted from a, well, less advanced country than the U.S. will have issues. It makes you feel terrible to chop a group out of the running immediately. It is going to be difficult regardless of disability. Some folks can do it, some cannot. Some can and just don’t do it. Do what you KNOW you can do. Being a parent is the most important job in the world.
March 24th, 2009 at 11:15 am
I opened my arms and said I want a baby universe – but I don’t want to play god here and cherry pick a perfect baby – of course every mother wants a healthy perfect baby – but I’d rather have a grateful, healthy, loving child, than a perfect one and these adoption forms are disconcerting for more reasons than one. I just hung up with a woman who had multiple successes adopting = she wanted a perfect baby and she found one. We’re not looking for perfect, we’re looking for our baby (perfect might be the box I wouldn’t check as acceptable).
I do believe what you say though – do what I know I can do – but there is probably a lot I could do that I don’t know yet, which is what always stumps me.