Are you a boy or are you a girl?
Someone asked T who is the wife and who is the husband in our relationship. The best part about being in a Lesbian relationship is being able to break free of gender constraints. I am naturally a boy albeit I look very woman-like. As a young girl, I aligned with my brothers and my father more than my mother and sister. That in no way signifies that I wasn’t attracted to men – I was and still am – but it means that with a man I was constantly treading and encroaching on their territory instead of staying in my woman box (no pun intended). In a same sex partnership, you get to play around with gender roles, and the permutations are endless. I love that.