On learning to be guileful, not
I was telling a friend that I was learning how to be guileful because being truthful wasn’t working for me – when suddenly I had an enormous epiphany – I haven’t been truthful at all lately.
Another friend told me she is always worried that she might sound – god forbid – needy if she is truthful and/or even worse vulnerable. I told her I so agree – the thought of being perceived as needy is enough to make me take the poison pill – vulnerable I think I can handle, but I don’t in personal relationships very well at all.
So far what have we learned? Ask yourself are you truthful – doubtful that you are. Because you are obviously protecting yourself from being viewed as needy or – god forbid – allowing yourself to be vulnerable. So what’s a gal to do?
Always tell the truth is what. It’s easier to lie. But a real person, a person who is for real, will tell the truth at the risk of being vulnerable, at the risk of seeming needy, because in the end, if you want to be the person you want to date, no matter how ridiculous it sounds – being truthful and respectful of another person is next to godliness in my book.