Surrender
I’m still working through the compassion meditation theme which finished this month and last night, it was tough because in exploring who you are and who people near you really are, it is hard not to be compassionate if you are able to envision a person as a young child drawn into a circle of loving warmth. The nutty thing about the meditation last night was that in creating this circle of people who love and support me whether drawing from the living or dead, I found myself smiling a big smile as I drew a circle that had my grandparents, parents, uncles and ex lover and friends all sitting around in a campfire.
When I started bringing people into the group, first as a child and then as an adult, I found that even the people who I would most like to spit on were people I have compassion for – and so I guess I was able to surrender to the moment, to the desire to find compassion inside me for others I don’t want to see in any other light than the one-dimensional hurtful or irritating one they are showing me.
Surrender is a wonderful way to approach those things you cannot control – if you are dealing with someone who is inevitably placing themselves as an obstacle in your path and going around them is not an option – surrender to them being them and then that lets you go through them. Spooky but it does work.