To each according to her needs
We’ve spent the last two days cleaning up the yard from Gustav, organizing the pantries from our moving in together for real, purging extra clothes, dishes, coats because we have too much, and all along the way, T and I negotiated what needs to be done based on our ability or desire to perform the task at hand.
In Atlanta, someone asked us who does what in the house and we looked at her – men and women are in constant negotiation for who does what – women and women in general aren’t – there is something to be done and no one flinches about getting it done. In the past, I didn’t keep measure of who does what because in the end I wanted these things done and so would have done them myself anyway, but living with someone who picks up where I leave off in such a fluid manner is like always answering your next question with yes.