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I woke this morning later than usual thanks to Lorzepan. The usually saboteurs that have been hanging around lately were all quiet. I thought about my friendships and how my therapist had said to seek out my friends during this time of upheaval and how that has not been a balm for me.

The reason is simple, I’m making big changes in my life and that provokes fears in others. No matter what their circumstance whether it is happy or miserable, watching someone close to you change their life radically calls into question what you are doing with your life.

So I spoke with my life coach this morning and said that I’m not wanting to entertain my friends right now. She asked me what I need. I said I need my friends to hear me, to respect that I’ve already made up my mind, and that now, I’m seeking their support and for them to bring comfort into my life. So I mentioned my go to people right now – the ones that hear me and respect my decisions and she said, put them on speed dial.

And then we spoke about the funk that arrived yesterday when the house offer fell through and the apartment I imagined was not what I’d imagined and she helped me develop a mantra because as I said, there will be funk even amidst these great changes.

So here’s my mantra when funk knocks on the door:
This is small. I believe in the bigger picture.

And so I told my friend who had been asking me what she can do to support me right now – I need for you to not give me advice even though I have sought it from you before. I need you to offer me a glass of wine and maybe some comfort food and for you to just be there – for me.

After typing that last line, one of my go to friends called and said, “Do you need a glass of wine? Do you want me to take you to lunch?”

Yes.

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