What’s it all about Alfie?
I came across this quote today – “love me when I least deserve it, because that’s when I really need it” and it probably goes hand in hand with any sort of toddler book you’ll ever read. I mean the teacher sent home some readings the other day and they were basically interchangeable for partner or child – you could scream, What the fuck are you doing? or you could say in a calm, measured voice instead, I really would like you to help me do this. Isn’t communication what we’re all seeking – talk to me, not the surface me, but the inside me.
So when you’re just acting up, outside of yourself, out of control and possibly trying to act like you are doing no wrong, someone to walk up and say I love you right then and there can be in and of itself strongly disarming.
I was thinking back to that film we just watched with Abby Lincoln, Nothing But A Man, where she continues to tell this man who is fighting as hard as he can to overcome the Jim Crow South and to be a man, that she loves him, even when he takes it all out on her – she was right though because in the end he needed her to love him the most when he was being the worst.