Blink
Craig had us all read Blink and it is a pretty interesting theory – that the first impression is the correct one. So I was speaking to a colleague recently who had read it and we were talking about this guy I recently met and I said I thought he was gay the first time I saw him and G thought he was the second time we ran into him and didn’t recognize where we knew him from. My colleague said then he is gay. She referred to the Blink theory.
I was thinking about it and while I think there is veracity to the argument, I also know that a lot of people thought S was gay when we were married and afterwards – by the way, he’s not – it still makes me laugh when someone suggests it. I tend to love effeminate men – and architects tend to be somewhat effeminate – but S is the least gay man I know. So what about those people who think he is and their blink-ability? Even my gay friends don’t always have perfect gay-dar.
So does Blink work? Maybe in some situations but not in all. But it does point you in the right direction and that is trusting your gut, your inner blink.